In the battle to define
what is the
Good for long and short term goals.
I know this works because here's what I did
in the past 7 days.
Full week of teaching.
Long list of usual mother responsibilities.
Gave a private tutoring lesson on Friday, worked on a photography crew on Saturday, and on Sunday, gave another private tutoring lesson.
Last weekend, I led an actor's workshop to secure footage of pieces of 4 scripts for promotional purposes.
That's just the past 7 days.
How do I manage it and why do I do this?
Why? Because I'm a hustler.
I was raised by a family of hustlers and I was put in a position at a young age to have to come through for myself, and to
1. Believe that I deserve great things
2. Have determination and
3. Put in as much work as necessary to make it happen
Here comes the how:
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STOP Before doing any of this
Make sure home is taken care of. Make sure you have a job or business that provides for what the family needs. You can't expand on a structure that has an unstable core.
6 Tips on how to make the most of your time and get your visions achieved
1. Break out of the monochrome static existence that is considered "typical"
Most people believe it's expected that they'd work 30 to 40 hours a week, cook, clean, watch TV and go out once in a while. In between this, they play on social media or talk on the phone about random things.
I still have to maintain my household, so yes, I still work and cook and clean, to make sure our basics are taken care of, BUT I don't perceive my time the same way as others.
You have to make the most of your time and your conversations. One of the first things most people who complete a project had to do was focus their time in a different way.
You've had to do some sort of a project before right? and when you utilized more of your time for that, you ignored TV and other distractions in order to get it done.
Also, when I have "down time" at work, I don't spend it on social media or on my phone, unless I'm communicating about something that leads toward my goals. A good friend of mine and I often have lunch time phone chats where we teach each other or check in on our progress.
Otherwise, I'm using that down time to make little strides toward a piece of my goals.
After work, I focus on my mom duties, and my growth goals. I even found a way to bring both together, by letting my daughter witness what I do and encouraging her to do the same on kid-level goals and plans.
The question isn't "Do you have the time?" The question is, "What's more important to you, the TV and social media or your vision?"
2. Aim at the progress and money.
A lot of us have financial ambitions as well as passionate ambitions. I know I have both. One of my major visions is a huge financial goal that I am steadily gaining ground toward.
So my conversations and my actions are judged by their USEFULNESS for the goal.
Same goes for my passions.
But here's the thing about my activist and creative passions. In order to grow them, I NEED THE FINANCIAL GAIN. So I continue to work on both BUT if my creative pursuits are preventing my financial gain, I have to be reasonable and set them aside. I can write a poem or two, and spend a few minutes meditating while I paint, but I CANNOT waste my energy on things that are not FINANCIALLY FRUITFUL.
I'm in the growth phase, as many of you are. You can't live in the dream-fantasy-land of "if I keep creating I'll get it." That's what separates the successful in their vision from those who will remain in a rut.
Your body is your vessel, so it makes sense that you want this machine to work at its best. This means you take in ONLY what increases your health and vitality: food, drink, exercise AND CONVERSATION.
That's right. What you see and hear, and the energy you expose yourself too all play a part in your overall health and ability to perform in all areas of your life.
When you start to focus on PURPOSEFUL actions and HEALTHFUL choices, you'll notice a similar spiritual reaction to a physical detox. You will notice an increase in energy and sharpened focus and spiritual agility.
4. Self-accountability - admit your bull shit
You have to be honest about your bullshit. For example, I know for a fact that I get distracted sometimes, especially if the task at hand requires reading or writing. I have so many great books in my home's library as well as my online Kindle reader. And I really just want to create scripts and play with digital editing.
But here's the thing" is that making me any money? NO.
I can hear someone say, but maybe it could if you got really good and the right client sees it.
DING DING DING. The Bullshit meter just went off.
You have to be realistic. You are not in a fairy tale, prince and princess. You are in this physical existence where PURPOSEFUL WORK and HEALTHFUL choices lead toward success. And those stories where somebody got a "break" don't tell you about the years of work, money gain, building a base.
YOU WANT FINANCIAL FREEDOM. Not to be beholden to some wishful thinking or someone else's pockets. MAKE YOUR OWN WAY. You gain 100% of the time when you are building your wealth. You got a 1% chance otherwise.
So I admit to my bullshit. I don't really want to do certain things because I just want to read and write and listen to music all damn day. That would be Heaven.
But it sure as hell aint gonna lead toward the growth and financial foundation I want.
These things that I enjoy are cool IN A MINIMUM. This can be the way I unwind at the end of the day, BUT DAMN SURE BETTER NOT BE HOW I SPEND MOST OF MY DAY. It irritates the hell out of me when someone says they spent their day on their "distractions" and act like they were productive.
No you sure the hell weren't. But if that's how you want to live, then do you. But if you want more for your life, you HAVE TO ADMIT TO YOUR SHIT and make HEALTHFUL choices and take PURPOSEFUL actions.
5. Reflect-Prepare-Act strategy
Knowing how to make these HEALTHFUL choices and PURPOSEFUL actions is best achieved during my "RPA" strategy.
Reflect on what you've done thus far, on what skills you have, who you are connected with that can and would assist (if necessary), and what other resources are available.
Prepare the plan for using these skills and resources.
Act on that plan DILIGENTLY. and
6. NEVER LET FRUSTRATION STOP YOU. You will always get blocked or redirected. The choice between loss and success is found in this step. Those who persist or find a route around the hurdle or ASK FOR ASSISTANCE will win the results they want.
Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.