In the battle to define
what is the
"I know you did not just act like you didn't hear me!"
"So you just gonna walk away and not say nothing?"
"OOOOh I hate you right now!"
When love gets hot & life gets heated to temperatures way above safe levels, we can sometimes take it out on the person closest to us. Even the best among us have done this a few times, & later regretted it. So what do you do when the anger flares up & you've said things you had no business saying?
Here's what you do:
Walk away. Remember that was the anger speaking, and not the love. DO NOT FALL for that mess some people say: "Well if you didn't mean it you wouldn't say it"
That's a load of dog poop on a sidewalk.
Don't step in it unless you want to stink for the rest of the day.
We all know people say things they don't really mean at times. When we get angry, our goal may be to unleash some of it. We can do that in hurtful ways
OR WE CAN LEARN A BETTER WAY... TOGETHER
So let's say yall are really going through it right now, or soon in the future. Before the next incident, the two of you need to do the steps to STOP the FIRE: stop drop and roll
Whatever the conversation is that has one or both of you heated, STOP it now.
Drop whatever you are doing, and both of you go do something that relieves stress: boxing gym, walking, running, salon treatment, pedicure, working oiut.
Roll both of your cooled off selves back together and remember
You will not always agree on everything, and that's normal and there is nothing wrong with that, at all. Just like Rick Warren, the pastor, said, it's a lie that we've bought that we have to always agree to love someone. Love is being there for each other as we are.
Love is remaining, seeking to uplift, and when arguments go down, remembering that we are all individuals, and we are all gonna have stress, and we
are ALL gonna make mistakes.
Together you face responsibilities and challenges as a team, and just like football players get mad sometimes with each other on the field, take that mess off the field, COOL OFF and get back in this together.
It's the ONLY way to win.
Some of yall are saying, "Can't I just do a trade like in the NFL?"
This is ONE LIFE, one season, not several. There are no trades. You trade somebody mid-season and you've already lost. I don't know about you, but I want the Super Bowl celebration at the end.
Hold on to the love you have, cause no matter who you are with, there will be challenges and you will have frustrations. And being single is no better. You'll face just as much, only you'll be alone.
Understand what I'm telling you?
Follow the steps, Resolve this temporary mess, And get back to LIFE as the team you are meant to be.
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Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.