What is Dating to You: a pass time or auditions?

I overheard a convo just a few minutes ago, where 4 people in a meeting broke away from their "business meeting" into a discussion about dating. One of them said, "Well that depends on if you're just dating or aiming for marriage." 


So that got me wondering: What is the goal of dating? And does it differ from person to person? 


While listening to their convo, it became apparent that the motive for dating can change for a person during the course of their life. For a time it can be a 
"pass time" and at other times, it can be "auditions" for a marriage partner. 


Based on the current mindframe of the person, their approach and interpretations of actions and statements will be different. For instance, a person who is taking it as a past-time for now, may overlook some habits that they don't like in the other person, since after all this is "just temporary." 


Where an issue can arise is when we approach the "auditions" with the attitude of a "pass time" and we overlook potential time-bomb issues in the person we are spending time with. That's how you can end up giving the "role" of spouse to someone that should've stayed just a "pass time." 


Do you really know what you need in the other person to have a successful union? Can you accept them as they are? Are you comfortable as you are? 


So many interesting conversations about who you are and who they are, and how it all works together. 


So get some wine or coffee or liquor or water... 
whatever your choice in beverage, kick back with some music on and have fun with this convo.