In the battle to define
what is the
Let's get philosophical for a moment.
What's your weather like?
No, I don't mean the current sweltering temps across the south, or the random storm clouds of winter. I mean YOUR weather. Let's do an exercise that'll be more effective than running 3 miles.
Step 1: Write 3 words that describe how you WANT your life to be.
Step 2: Write down the 5 people you spend the most time with.
Step 3: Write down the 3 places you spend the most time.
Step 4: Next to each person and place, write ONE word that describes the connection and how it makes you feel. For example, next to "home" I'd put "comfortable" or "safe" or "stable."
Step 5: Compare the words you used to describe your current people and places in your "environment" with the list you made in "Step 1." Do they agree? Or are they opposed? Do some agree, while some oppose? When you find out which areas of your life support your path toward your desired life, you learn what's healthy for you and what isn't.
And be honest. Don't use this as an excuse to leave someone. I recall a certain radio host telling a woman to leave her husband, whom she shared 2 kids with, and whom she admitted was a stable provider and made her happy. The reason he said to leave was she complained that her husband didn't want to go back to school or open a business. She felt that his personal choice to keep the job he had, and the life they had as it was, was a problem big enough to leave him over. Now how selfish is that. And this RADIO HOST told her to do it! He said she was right to be angry since he didn't "want to advance"
What I'm warning you is: Do not use this to blast someone who keeps you content. Be honest about how they make you feel in the SIMPLEST SENSE.
See you soon Modern Traditional World.
You want to know who she really is? Spend time with her when it's her period. Most guys stay away early on in the dating process when she has her period, but you NEED to see her when she feels like crap.
Nobody can keep up pretenses when they feel like their getting stabbed in the lower abdomen, and their mind has been taken over by a roller coaster ride of hormones.
Whatever she says or however she acts during these few days of torture, you can rest assured that's the worst she will ever be.
This is the quickest and easiest way to figure out who she is. You'll get a clear image of what kind of attitude she'll have when she's frustrated by something in life. You'll also know the extent of her ability to be irrational.
As much as some women don't want to admit it, our periods take over our mind & body during our periods, so it takes A LOT more effort than usual to keep it together. If your lady does manage to keep herself composed with only mild moodiness,
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The question is: What's in your diet?
Sounds strange? Well keep reading to see what I mean...
You want a support system? You want to know you don't have to face the ups & downs alone? You want to know somebody;s got your back? Someone's gonna be there to share moments with? To grow with? To laugh with?
You get that as soon as you decide.
If you find yourself saying "I'm not ready" or "We're just talking" or "We're kinda dating" but you're still not moving toward committing and marrying. If you don't know WHEN specifically you'll be 100% committed to this person, then you're wasting everyone's time.
It's like with food. Fast food will feed you, give you the energy you need for the day, BUT it will also kill you. It will never give you what you really need to be healthy AND at your best.
Eating home-cooked soul food & love is the only way to see the full potential of your life. We are stronger when we have an ally.
your ally will not always agree with you, they will not always do what pleases you, so when you get upset or they get upset OR both, NEVER think "should we end it?" That's just bogus BS that will keep you from ever knowing what love CAN be.
The ones who get to know the power of that life-long connection are the ones who face the moments they get upset with the attitude "I'm mad now, but I'm not losing you over a temporary situation."
You can keep "talking" and playing around if you want, but just like fast food addicts, you'll feel the pain by the time you're 50.
What's in YOUR DIET?
she was his rain water
feeding & cleansing all that he is
her touches dancing trails
of sensations to peace
and the air after her exit
carried the after taste of her spirit
she was rain water
and he was the river that fed her clouds
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1. These kind of kisses get any one in the mood if they find you attractive.
2. They ease tension & improve mood.
3. They're fun!
4. They're value is high because so few people use them to set the mood for sex.
5. The feel good EVERY WHERE. No part of the body is immune to this sensation.
How do you do it right?
2 mistakes to avoid
1. Do not keep the pressure of the kiss the same.
2. Do not keep kissing in the same location for more than a few seconds.
Tip 1: Vary the amount of pressure. You have to do a mixture of pressures. Most people just kiss away without much thought, and the nerve endings quickly get used to the feeling, and therefore, your kisses are no longer having an effect.
Softly grazing the lips over the area, and then kissing with a little more force and with the lips and tongue. Then just the tongue. You can also blow cooling air on to the area when it's wet for a new sensation.
Tip 2: Keep it moving. When you move your mouth around to new areas, the sensations follow. You can go back to an area you've already kissed after 10 or more seconds has passed. Figure eights are a great way to be sure you're moving around the body.
Tip 3: You can use your hands to caress and tickle a different area from where you are kissing. If you are kissing the side of his/her abs. then simultaneously graze your fingertips around the top outer thigh area.
WARNING: avoid the inner thigh because it can be overly sensitive and could have the opposite effect from what you'd like. If you do touch the inner thigh, only do so very quickly and lightly to avoid a "jump" If you're partner jumps from being tickled, you've LOST the entire mood. Some lovers think "Oooh I got a reaction!" when their partner jumps or pulls away. That's not a good thing. You want to keep the mind seduced and relaxed. If they jump, you just shook them out of the trance you had them in.
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The basics of goodness and greatness.
There is a definitive difference between a good man and a great man. A good man does the basics of what is required. A great man goes somewhat above expectations.
With that in mind, here are what most modern women consider good and great qualities in a man.
1. Spend time with their children and significant other (the time available is based on his work schedule)
2. Provides for the basic needs of his children
(#1 and #2 are usually relevant to each other, but in most cases, a good man is able to fulfill both equivalently)
3. Obviously does not physically or emotionally abuse anyone (children, significant other or family members - unless a family member is putting his household at risk)
4. Handles himself professionally at work and maintains employment.
(if he frequently quits jobs and always says there's a problem with the job or supervisor, he needs to understand that EVERYBODY has somethings to deal with at work that they don't like. As a good man he must set aside his personal feelings in his pursuit of an income. Unless he is in physical danger, being unemployed or constantly moving from job to job is NOT acceptable)
These 4 basic requirements allow a man to maintain a home and the safety of his children and significant other. Anything additional and he can be considered among the great ones.
1. Do all of the things mentioned for a good man.
2. Seeks to advance himself, his children, and significant other's standing in life and their dreams.
3. Works actively with his partner to make life easier and as comfortable as possible for all involved.
4. Handles disputes directly and in a timely manner.
5. Respects commitments so much so that he will handle any challenges or disputes in a manner that seeks to MAINTAIN the relationship. Seeking solutions and resolutions to issues and concern.
6. Wants his partner sexually satisfied and has fun making sure she's happy.
7. Seeks to relieve his partner's stress and responds in a helpful manner when it's obvious something is negatively her.
8. Any other actions or habits that create happiness, success, and the advancement of the family or couple.
As I wrote this list, I realized, the same items apply to women. If a woman is good, she will attend to the "good" items, and if she is great, she will do all 8 of the great items, just like the man should.
Now the question is: do you understand how to properly assess your partner's ability to do the following? Are you being fair?
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He is the silky texture of alto sax
and the drops of sweat dancing down my back
when i catch the beat in the basS of my feet
He's the rhythm river like Nile flows against
He purifies my valley and nourishes my soul
He's the spinning currents of feathery winds
He tangoes, hip hops, dips, and spins me
I'm so much like savannahs waving in his lead
He is ... this jazzy brassy sunset over me
and we're gonna interlock our steps
and glide over this sea
Mon cher amore
Sexy Sexy Man that I adore
You're the only one my heart beats for
How I wish that you were mine
He took his time
finding the rhyme
the reason he kept missing
the hints I was sending
tip tip tap I was knock knock knocking
on my heaven's door
Miles playing the soundtrack
of my footsteps rising & falling
to the floor
I'm sipping his
Love takes a NOSEDIVE sometimes, so what you gonna do about it?
Check out Episode 3 of The LanceScurv Show with Jessica IAmAir Bordelon
Author of ' How to Make a Modern Woman Act Like a Traditional Lady"
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We covered a lot of CONTROVERSIAL topics in this one. No holds barred.
We go ALL IN! Jessica Bordelon & Lance Scurv
What do we ALL really need?
The SOCIAL MEDIA bandaid
Relationships. Past compared to present.
How we develop into adulthood.
We got some confusion to deal with if we're gonna get our minds right.
Author Rick Warren wrote
“Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone’s lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense. You don’t have to compromise convictions to be compassionate.”
There in lies the problem: ULTIMATUMS, the "all or nothing" mentality.
Criticizing or disagreeing with the way someone lives does not mean you hate them or fear them. It means you
Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.