In the battle to define
what is the
Set boundaries for your needs to be met. Enjoy what it is. Be still. Adapt to change. Repeat.
DISCLAIMER: My boundaries don't have to be yours. Remember THIS is only an EXAMPLE story. Every person is free to express their sexuality as they see fit.
Now on to the story...
"I'm broken but not destroyed."
"I understand that."
"I'm recovering though but I can't start a new relationship if that makes sense."
"I don't think you should either."
"But can I be close to you sometimes?"
"Yes but we cannot have sex. I'll only have sex with
This was another one of those times I wish I were the only woman I know to have gone through this, but as one recent conversation proved and a few in the past as well, I’m not the only woman who’s been brought to consider a life change from genuine loving woman to gold digger.
There was the time a man was upset that I didn’t compliment him on his car when he picked me up for a date.
Or the time a man kept taking me out to expensive places even when I said what I really wanted was a shrimp poboy and a daiquiri by the lake. He also wanted me to set aside everything I was working on and move to his city 3 hours away. “And what job am I going to get there exactly? I like what I do now. Yall have jobs like this there?”
“Ok so that’s your answer. I’ll either not be able to work or make less and you’ll have to cover almost everything on your own. And besides I’m not letting go of all of this for someone who doesn’t even consider giving me what I want but instead keeps giving me things I made clear I’m not into.”
But for the most part, there have been 2 other kinds of men drawn to me: the one who
Here’s where I battle over what to write here.
This was inspired by 2 text messages received within moments of each other from 2 different people who included the same 2 words.
There are these 2 words that seem to either start or at least be a central part of many, many, many statements from those intrested in the past and those interested in being my lover at present. And what I want is for someone to FLIP that phrase and ask me a very loving question that I think we all want to receive.
But to write about it means to give those reading insider info and as lovers go, I know that if you hand out the road map to your heart, they’ll follow it straight forward to the core … but if I have to show you the way, then do you deserve it for “following orders”?
Then what, if you had to be guided with info like “these 2 words” previously mentioned…
There is so much GEMINI HATE out there when it comes to Love. So as a solid 100% through and through Gemini, this is my first jab back at those who hate on us. Enjoy.
Aquarius… I can't start with you so, I’m gonna come back to you later.
Pisces… I’ve never had the pleasure though I’ve been warned of potential disaster of a Gemini with a Pisces lover, so perhaps it’s better that we never synced up. If you are a Pisces who's been scarred by a Gem, just understand our natures are totally conflictual in love, which means neither you nor we are at fault, so please stop the Gem bashing, Ok?
Aries… Boy please, with all the conflict and battling you crave, that fire we feeling ain’t worth it. Aries enters all things to win, and Gems like to play and keep it light, unless it’s a fight for life. So when you are ready to throw fire, I’m just opening up my arms for hugs…. so this Love never leaves the ground
Taurus… we tried but you take my playfulness for a lack of seriousness and assume I’ll destroy your peaceful center. I get it… so please stop bashing Gems just because we approach life with a different attitude.
Gemini to Gemini… Maybe we get a little too high on the fumes of being two air signs, Creative explosions. We vibe but who’s gonna be the gravity keeping us tied to center? We make hurricanes more often than peaceful dreams. But if we were bringing equally to this Gemini table, I'm sure our twins could create something beautiful, whether temporary or permanently united.
Cancer … your passionate devotion is warming to me when I’m feeling distant and angry. You heal me with your love but I fear that I’ll never be able to give that same nurturing affection that you seek. So you leave unfulfilled. but you can believe that the passion I feel for you is genuine, I'm just not sure you'll understand how it's presented, and misunderstand my intentions.
Leo… explosions remain the best comparison to all ways that we connect, from the passion to the disagreements. My air feeds your flames and we ignite each other. The heat is too much for either of us and any one who tries to intervene in our warfare like tendencies gets caught in the flames. Yet, I hear that in some instances, when we appreciate the energy and give each other alone time in between, we could be extreme on the success in all things. Only problem is, Lion you like to be the biggest light in the room, and Gems sparkle just as bright, only we don't might sharing the universe with other stars. Can we come to an agreement here? If not, let's just stay friends and appreciate these sparks from a distance.
Virgo … gentlest lover this wild soul has ever known. You saved me with your grace, found me lost in far reaches of space, and bound me to your surface so I could breathe. Only we lost our way and now our loose bond will have to suffice within this life. Yet a Virgo’s gentle ways are soothing to the lightning spark of my soul. I hope that the energy of my love and the encouragement I gave was meaningful on your path.
Libra… they say we’re supposedly the best fit. Not sure because the only experience I’ve had with your kind is still an unresolved question … but … the potential is real. You remind me of me. Bouncing from wall to wall, a tornado or a peaceful ocean breeze, air signs know how to mix it up. Never seen a love through to completion to be sure of where this connection would lead but I can see potential in you and me.
Scorpios… so pragmatic, every thing in life has to fit like mathematics, which eases my tornadic nature… Only I never know if I fit into the formula on your professor minded internal chalkboard of a mind. Will my mark become permanent engravings or can you easily erase me from your space? The choice is completely yours. Not much I can do, so I hesitate at a distance and make sure I have one hand on your wall and the other risen high so I can fly away before I get pulled down into your waves. But something is so reassuring about the way you hold me and protect me whether we are together or apart.
Sagittarius… we’ve never had the loving pleasure but I’ve heard of your peaceful balance and dreamy way of holding your lover in your eyes and heart. But I’ve never sampled your warmth.
Capricorn… your steadiness is appealing certainly, for business and child-rearing but your heavy headed progression, you trample through the paths before you. And my light steps and tendency to fly keeps us separated. So if a Gem leaves quietly early on when dating you, it's because you move too loudly and hold fast to the ground, and I'm scared you won't allow my Air-like nature to fly.
Aquarius… that leads me back to this safe space that always welcomes me…. Damn air sign compatibility. You get me as I get you. Answers come before questions. Word play is a fluid river cause our air like tendencies birth nourishing waters. Only you are more of a hanging air like fog that lingers and holds its energy, unwilling to float too far from center for fear of losing balance. While I”m the playful torrent of air currents that move oceanic currents. I wonder if you’ll ever come and really play with me? Or will we always only meet near the coastline where you cling to surfaces?
I hope by now we have all come to a better understanding of how or why Gems and you either work or ... don't. So Can we call a truce on all this Gemini Hate please? and Thank you.
Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.