I can imagine your faces when you saw this title. I get it. Traditionally when we think of "pillow talk," it's the talk that happens after sex. Couples are laying in some sort of comfortable position, and the talks commence.
But, what if... you try something new.
First give me a few second to address the newly dating, and I'll show you how the info I give to them applies to the rest of you as well.
Newly dating couples, considering you two haven't had sex yet, THIS is a new way to move forward. What if your first intimate moments are more about discussions or drawing or writing or massage or touching in silence rather than total intercourse?
Have you tried it before? No. Then why not try it with this new thing you started.
You'll be laying beside someone you desperately want, and having to restrain yourselves. THAT'S the fun part. If you've never seen it yet, watch the film "Vanilla Skies." Even for those of you who no longer appreciate Tom Cruise, just bear with him, and watch the story unfold. There is this phenomenal scene toward the beginning in which he and his therapist discuss the concept of "delayed gratification." This conversation started because the therapist could not understand why he'd delay having sex with her if he really wanted her and it seemed she might be into it that night.
Also watch the video on Ted.com titled "Don't Eat the Marshmallow." I'll provide a link below.
The ideo in both of these has to do with the POWER of delaying your most deepest desires for a time.
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Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.