In the battle to define
what is the
2 words that have caused so much confusion in recent years:
emotional and narcissistic.
Men and women have thrown these words at each other like 5 year old kids locked in battle.
“You did it!”
“No uh huh you did it!”
While there are a few people in this world that may be uncommonly emotional OR narcissistic, the reality is BOTH of these words are used WAY TOO OFTEN and WRONGLY used by people when the definitions don’t even fit the situation.
Don’t deny that you have either thrown out these 2 words at least once OR something VERY similar.
Why do people use words like this?
Simple. To stop the argument, to halt the discussion entirely, to say “I won’t hear you because you’re too “emotional” or “narcissistic.”
Some Men say women are acting out of emotion and therefore their statements are invalid.
Some Women say men are simply too narcissistic or selfish to understand or consider their viewpoint.
AND THAT’S THE PROBLEM
Both parties have already decided that the other person is NOT worth listening to. Both have decided that being “right” is more important than … the… relationship. Or the potential relationship if one has not “officially” started yet.
So in short, when the frustration level starts to rise up:
Stop, Drop, and Roll
Stop speaking for a minute
Drop off into your own space for a few minutes and cool your ass off
Then Roll both your asses back together and start off by saying “We want US as a team first and foremost and all the rest, don’t matter, as long as we are not harming each other or preventing each other’s progress.”
After all, if you’re a harm or a block to each other, why would you be together anyway? If that’s not the case, if you two have the POTENTIAL to build each other up and be stronger,
Come back to center and agree to set aside what really doesn’t matter and focus on what does: both of your health, your progress, your connection, and your home.
Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.