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UPDATE: I've decided to give you all a holiday gift: a part to this series about teasing your partner with the freshest playground.
This is for all you active-sensual-play-partners. You’ve had sex at least once if not too many times to count, and you think you should do what… most of the time wait until dark and get in the bed to connect? Go through the usual motions that you’ve done 100 times before?
(if you have not had sex yet with the person you’re interested in, then Click HERE to read Part 3 about timing the first time just right)
That’s the muh-fuggin problem right there with any couple who says they got bored at some point. If you don’t want to get bored OR if you already feel bored, here’s something you might not realize
Both of you. Because it takes 2 unfocused lovers to get bored.
What do I mean? Well, Love it’s just like with any human connection, if you make it fun, then it’s gonna be fun.
Real talk: Choose one of the following to compare your view of a long term partner to.
a) ball and chain
b) roller coaster ride
c) a responsibility
d) a source of energy
e) counsel and protection
f) a burden and nuisance
If you chose a, c, and/or f, then you either have a really messed up relationship already, OR your perspective on relationships is F*ed up totally.
If you chose b… ehh… this could be fun or scary, depending on which direction you took with the answer.
BUT if you chose d and/or e, then you’ve got the right idea. Your partner should be that vector point you always return to for peace, pleasure, and passion. You two should see each other as the fun outtake in your daily life. It should be a pleasure to get home or to get face-to-face with each other because you know THIS PERSON will understand you and warm your day up.
So FIRST STEP is having the right outlook and attitude toward each other.
SECOND, is actually relaxing with each other and keeping A BOND. Comb her hair, get the clippers out and give him a lining, take turns giving each other shoulder rubs while watching a movie, play a trivia game or video game or basketball together, cook together, etc.
No need to do this every day, BUT without a doubt, your daily routine should be a SHARED experience on some level.
THIRD STEP – be flirtatious and sensual as a habit. As with EVERY THING if you start doing something on a regular basis, it becomes second nature. So if you really want great sex it HAS TO BE mixed in with moments like this in between.
As long as you keep this habit going, the random spontaneous sex with just happen BUT remember, being physical and SENSUAL does not have to wait until you can get totally X-rated. Play around a little PG-13 in general public and get a little R-rated in places like bars or spots where no one is likely to notice or care.
Here’s some suggestions Love. Make your Relationship the playful, energizing, connection you always wanted and deserved.
Kitchens, Bathrooms, At the Park, On the Street, At a Grocery Store… the world is a lover’s playground. Take advantage !!!
Don't forget to come back next Sunday for the HOLIDAY SPECIAL: Turning your body and there's into a dessert of natural organic pleasure.
Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.