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Committed fellas, Single men, and the "Somewhere in between," here's my tips to each of you as we RAPIDLY approach Valentine's Day.
Step 1: Do not hate on the holiday to a woman, even if she claims to be tired of it. Why? If she says she's over it, SHE'S LYING! She either thinks her aloof attitude will make her seem more attractive to you, or she's been wounded and is too angry for you to be trying to deal with anyway. On the off chance, that she is the .001% of women who genuinely have no fascination with the holiday, my tips WILL STILL WORK.
Valentine's Day is nothing more than a day to pay tribute to the institution of LOVE, not "how much money or how many balloons and flowers" can you send.
Step 2: If you are dealing with the type of woman who wants to compete for the "my man loves me the most award" by virtue of who ever gets the biggest delivery at her job... well... you may just have one of the types I describe in Chapter 1 "How to Know Crazy When You See Crazy."
Love does not and should not ever carry a price tag.
The amount of money invested in the gift should be less important than the time and thought put into it.
Any woman who values LOVE will agree.
Should you ever buy an extravagant gift? Sure! If your pockets can afford it, then yes. It's a gesture of pride and love in your lady, whether you buy her a diamond ring, bracelet, or an all expense paid trip to Jamaica.
BUT Valentine's Day does not have to be that day.
HERE'S WHAT YOU DO TO MAKE HER HAPPY ON ANY BUDGET:
Start BEFORE the Big Day.
Today is already 2/3/2014, so today, send her a text message.
COMMITTED MEN can say, "V-Day is on the way, and it always reminds me that love is just as important as safety and having a home. Just want you to know, I'm thinking of you and love you."
SOMEWHERE IN BETWEEN MEN can say, "Meet me at _____ for lunch tomorrow. If not, you'll miss the surprise." (the next day, all you have to do is give her a flower and lunch. THAT'S the surprise and if she's worth your time, she'll appreciate it.)
SINGLE MEN need to get my book first so they can make sure they have chosen a "modern traditional lady," but HEY, if you like her then you can say the same thing as the "Somewhere in between man" but I wouldn't bring the flower, YET. My school of thought is, you get what you give, so giving her a lunch as a treat is good enough until SHE SHOWS you that she's INTO YOU and not just in need of some temporary attention while she shops elsewhere.
Check back soon as I give you more tips to make this time of the year work in YOUR FAVOR, or you could just go on over to the "Store" tab and get ALL your questions answered for $5.00 on Amazon.com. Till next time, LOVE WISELY GENTLEMEN.
Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.