We got some confusion to deal with if we're gonna get our minds right.
Author Rick Warren wrote
“Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone’s lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense. You don’t have to compromise convictions to be compassionate.”
There in lies the problem: ULTIMATUMS, the "all or nothing" mentality.
Criticizing or disagreeing with the way someone lives does not mean you hate them or fear them. It means you
simply disagree. There is a difference between spewing hateful speech and just saying you don't agree with a person's life. If we allow people to criticize drug addicts, strippers, and eccentric whackos like Donald Trump, we have to accept that NO ONE is immune from others' criticism.
We CANNOT extend the rights of "free speech" only when it makes US comfortable. That's NOT free, and I think we all know that.
On the other side of it, we also DO NOT have to agree with someone all the time, or have 100% similar likes and dislikes in order to respect and/or love someone else.
We are dynamic and diverse people. A difference of opinion is NEVER a reason to end a partnership, friendship, and definitely not a relationship. LOVE & friendship are not based on 100% accord & parallelism. These 2 are based on a choice to honor & connect with another person, AS THEY ARE. Not only if they are just the same as you.
THE MESSAGE TODAY is: We must allow everyone to be who they are. Trying to teach a fish to fly isn't going to help anyone. And yes, a bird and a fish can be friends, just like Scuttle and Flounder. *wink* It's all about meeting each other and supporting each other along the way.
Of course you can feel free to go on alienating yourself if you wish. After all, you are FREE to be who you are, and if a lonely, bitter, and "demanding-perfection-in-others" is your way to be, then so be it. Just don't come crying later because you don't get why you have no one.
Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.