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Lowering the standards of one group to meet the lower standards of another, does nothing but reduce the entire population involved.
Assuming and promoting promiscuity and devaluing the intimate connection between 2 lovers WILL NOT improve our society, nor will it magically create equality.
Of course it's unfair that our society has for centuries required women to be more "chaste" than male counterparts,. However, it's foolish to ask that we as women be permitted to lower our standards of respectable behavior.
INSTEAD, what I have always advocated for is RAISING the expectations of men to match what we collectively expect of women.
THAT'S RIGHT LADIES & GENTLEMEN. I believe that an overly promiscuous man is just as harmful to the success of a future marriage as an overly promiscuous woman is.
I CAN HEAR THE CRITICS, yea I hear you already: "But if it's our bodies we should be free to do whatever."
Yea, in theory that's true. We have our freedoms by law to do MANY things. For example, it's not illegal to consume massive amounts of alcohol everyday. It's not illegal to habitually go to work late and lose job after job after job. ETC.
There are many things that are not illegal according to our government, BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN THEY ARE GOOD FOR YOU.
Adults reading this. Look back over your life and the people you've known.
#1 - Among them you will find those of self-discipline and those who were impulsive. We all know the self-disciplined people were more successful and happy than those who were impulsive.
#2 - FURTHERMORE, the more sexual partners a person has had, the more emotional dramas, STDs, unplanned children, PROPERTY DAMAGE, emotional damage, and the baggage related to all of these that a person has.
Men & women of overly promiscuous pasts develop a need to continue such behavior just like the person who drinks too much alcohol continues to have that need.
Just like the person who is habitually late to work, is most likely going to continue that bad habit ALL of their life.
THIS SPILLS OVER INTO OTHER AREAS OF A PERSON'S LIFE. Lacking self discipline is more likely to lead to selfish behavior and a LACK OF ABILITY TO CONNECT in the kind of beautiful love connections we all desire. The writers of this film CALLED IT "TRAIN WRECK." That should tell us something.
WHAT IF THAT "LOVE WE ALL DESIRE" IS JUST A FAIRY TALE?
It's not just a fairy tale. I've seen it. You've seen it.
The problem is we think it's got to be a "fairy tale" of all smiles and happy songs.
Aw... that's so cute.
Even "fairy tales" all started with challenges and conflicts.
What makes you think YOUR fairy tale will be any different?
That "love" isn't flawless & without conflict.
It's deep, abiding, & fulfilling. It will lead to intense moments of all sorts of emotions.
And at the end of it, you'll look back and see exactly HOW BEAUTIFUL it all was.
ANALOGY: When we are climbing a mountain, we are UNAWARE of the beauty that surrounds us.
We won't understand the beauty of the view, until we reach the peak, and look back over all WE'VE ACCOMPLISHED TOGETHER as a unit of 2.
DON'T WORRY IF YOU'RE SOMEONE WHO FEELS OVERLY PROMISCUOUS RIGHT NOW. Maya Angelou & the Dalai Lama have this beautiful & true lesson for you:
we can shape those traits we want by PRACTICING the traits that are the opposite of the unwanted traits.
It won't be immediate BUT as long as you continue to try, you'll see improvement. If you want more tips on how to do this "re-shaping" of self (not just about sex) go over to the "contacts" tab and send me a message.
Be blessed Love. <3
FOR MORE INFO ON RESEARCH REGARDING THE EFFECTS OF SELF-DISCIPLINE ON OUR LIVES AND SUCCESS, SEE THIS VIDEO.
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Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.