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We've all heard it said that "all that happens in the dark comes to the light." Of course when we hear it we all think about "infidelity." (Thank you Tyler Perry)
But what if I told you about a DEEPER meaning to this phrase?
It relates to the following type of situation:
Once upon a time, two lovers meet, & they have dinner. A few weeks go by and they've been chatting & laughing & spending wonderful times together.
But FAST FORWARD a couple of months, and these two people are no longer even talking, and both of them are now rehashing the tale with friends, and asking
WHAT THE HELL WENT WRONG ???
Well, I'll tell you...
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Simply put: They left too much in the dark, & it bubbled up & exploded all over both of them.
Along the way their insecurities led them to misinterpret the actions of the other person. For example, she may have had a bad day at work, & when they saw each other she wasn't her typical self. Since it was still "new" he didn't know how to take it, & felt it was too early to dive into that type of conversation, so ...
he theorized that "maybe this is who she really is, & she's giving me a peak into what I have to expect more of later."
The next time she calls him, he evades seeing her in person, because he's cautious now. He starts to pull back & she senses it & KEEPS HER QUESTIONS IN THE DARK TOO! She thinks "Well, he must be losing interest in me!" or "Damn, I bet he's seeing someone else & is thinking about choosing her instead."
Now the demise speeds up & THAT my friends is how they landed in
"What the hell happened?" Land
They saw something they didn't understand, & instead of inquiring to see what the cause of her mood was, OR her inquiring about why he seemed distant, they let it sit in the dark. Those seeds of UNCERTAINTY led them down the path to create their own
THREE HEADED DEMON that later killed any potential they had.
So what's my suggestion?
ASK WHAT'S UP.
Plain & simple.
You see something out of the usual in his or her behavior, then you need to ASK what's up. If the person says something strange, ASK what's up. If you ask in a purely altruistic manner, wanting to see beyond what is likely a TEMPORARY upset, that's what leads to long term & powerful connections.
What you think you saw, aint always what you really saw.
What you think you heard, ain't always what you really heard.
Shine a light on it, cause the shadow that you think is a monster, is really just your own DOUBTS getting in the way of
Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.