In the battle to define
what is the
It’s either too big or too small. Everybody gotta have it all, apparently.
Butt injections and implants have been in the news in recent months. There’s even a documentary about the tragedies of toxic injections being inserted into backsides
BET’s “Killer Curves” is all about horror stories of butts falling apart or getting infected and several women even dying as a result of the search for a Ripe Apple bottom.
And the public outcry is blaming the hip hop industry for its fixation on big butts and curves.
*insert loud ass brakes*
What does your nose or ass got to do with talent?
Not a damn thing.
All these stories about some agent or producer or executive telling a woman that something about her body needs to be altered before she can receive their backing or support.
Here are 2 facts to remember:
Why are these 4 words so feared?
Why do we hesitate to share a photo, or a loving thought about our partner.
We are so ready and willing to share any other happiness we experience, so why not this one?
There are 3 common reasons for this:
Can you be devoted to the church and be sexually free?
How many partners makes you a hoe?
Does the number even matter?
Let’s break down the bull shit attacks more often used against women and what you should and should not give a shit about.
A link to see the scene that set this off are at the bottom of this post.
On the one hand, Mara and Salim did a good thing by letting his mother, Rose, go off on him for his LACK of presence and provision, BUT when Mara chose to DEFEND her husband's choices and paint this rose-tinted picture of the situation, it made me sick.
Let me explain:
I can hear you.
The"doubters" are saying "yea yea yea... more of that horoscope mess."
The believers are saying, "Yes. Tell em!"
But you're here already doubters... so just have some fun with me here.
This post is based on the astrology that originated in India BUT other systems, like the Chinese calendar and the Feng Shui based system are interesting too.
So back to it... Why care?
SO WHAT'S THE TAKE-AWAY HERE?
If you know how a person is likely to show interest how they communicate ideas and needs, and their approach to sex, you can walk into that dating situation like a boss. And both of you will be a hell of a lot happier for however long you choose to be together and in whatever capacity.
I cannot be the only person who sees this destructive boulder rolling all across the map of the US.
Matt Lauer had sex at the Democratic National Convention and... we're supposed to be mad about that?
Tavis Smiley is accused of having sexual relationships with coworkers who CONSENTED but ... we're supposed to be mad about that?
Instead of seeking prosecution for those who physically assaulted others, some Men are losing their jobs... not for rape or sexual assault, Men are being defamed and losing jobs and connections for flirtations, for consensual sex, for making sexual desires known.
THIS IS NOT HELPING ANYBODY: not women, not girls, not men, not boys, and it's damn sure not helping people who are actually raped and/or assaulted.
Feminists will say, "But outing this conduct teaches men and boys that their unwanted sexual expression will be punished."
No, Here is what it actually teaches.
Nobody wants a dirty and stinky meal to taste.
It’s time for a special edition of the Good versus Bad Sex discussion. Parts 1 to 4 were supposed to be the end of that series but I realized I left a very important element. After all, you can choose the best partner, make the most of the time you have, be creative, and all of that and in the end… it’s just like your food:
The touch and the smell are the centerpiece of the entire experience.
LADIES AND GENTLEMAN
Eat ginger. Fresh ginger root. Just a small piece a few days a week will set your system right. Drink half a glass of water with it.
Now keep reading for more Tasty and Seductive Details...
So what does "Soul Sex" feel like?
UPDATE: I've decided to give you all a holiday gift: a part to this series about teasing your partner with the freshest playground.
This is for all you active-sensual-play-partners. You’ve had sex at least once if not too many times to count, and you think you should do what… most of the time wait until dark and get in the bed to connect? Go through the usual motions that you’ve done 100 times before?
(if you have not had sex yet with the person you’re interested in, then Click HERE to read Part 3 about timing the first time just right)
That’s the muh-fuggin problem right there with any couple who says they got bored at some point. If you don’t want to get bored OR if you already feel bored, here’s something you might not realize
Both of you. Because it takes 2 unfocused lovers to get bored.
What do I mean? Well, Love it’s just like with any human connection, if you make it fun, then it’s gonna be fun.
Real talk: Choose one of the following to compare your view of a long term partner to.
a) ball and chain
b) roller coaster ride
c) a responsibility
d) a source of energy
e) counsel and protection
f) a burden and nuisance
If you chose a, c, and/or f, then you either have a really messed up relationship already, OR your perspective on relationships is F*ed up totally.
If you chose b… ehh… this could be fun or scary, depending on which direction you took with the answer.
BUT if you chose d and/or e, then you’ve got the right idea. Your partner should be that vector point you always return to for peace, pleasure, and passion. You two should see each other as the fun outtake in your daily life. It should be a pleasure to get home or to get face-to-face with each other because you know THIS PERSON will understand you and warm your day up.
So FIRST STEP is having the right outlook and attitude toward each other.
SECOND, is actually relaxing with each other and keeping A BOND. Comb her hair, get the clippers out and give him a lining, take turns giving each other shoulder rubs while watching a movie, play a trivia game or video game or basketball together, cook together, etc.
No need to do this every day, BUT without a doubt, your daily routine should be a SHARED experience on some level.
THIRD STEP – be flirtatious and sensual as a habit. As with EVERY THING if you start doing something on a regular basis, it becomes second nature. So if you really want great sex it HAS TO BE mixed in with moments like this in between.
As long as you keep this habit going, the random spontaneous sex with just happen BUT remember, being physical and SENSUAL does not have to wait until you can get totally X-rated. Play around a little PG-13 in general public and get a little R-rated in places like bars or spots where no one is likely to notice or care.
Here’s some suggestions Love. Make your Relationship the playful, energizing, connection you always wanted and deserved.
Kitchens, Bathrooms, At the Park, On the Street, At a Grocery Store… the world is a lover’s playground. Take advantage !!!
Don't forget to come back next Sunday for the HOLIDAY SPECIAL: Turning your body and there's into a dessert of natural organic pleasure.
Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.