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One of the surest things that has been proven is that a child’s most basic needs of “security” must be met in order for that child to EXCEL in life. If the CHILD is UNSURE that his parent will provide or that their parent will remain in their lives, it makes them too uncomfortable to fully attend to education and other factors of GROWTH.
We ARE NOT so far removed from the psychology of a child as some might think. Human psychology doesn’t change all that much as we age. Our basic needs REMAIN; to be our best, we must be secure that our world and what we trust is SECURE.
This leads me to a recent trend in the past decade that says YOU are not responsible for the feelings of “security” that your significant other feels about your relationship. There are some who feel they should not change habits or who they communicate with as they enter into a relationship, or even years after they’ve been in it.
Let me ask you this: The day you had a child, did you or did you not
have to change certain habits in order to provide security for that child?
I’m not suggesting that you do a life overhaul in order to accommodate your partner. All I’m suggesting is that if YOU want a UNION, then you have to UNITE. You have to be willing to provide AN ENVIRONMENT OF COMFORT AND SECURITY. Because yes, it is our personal responsibility to give our partners reason to feel secure.
THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF THAT IS… honesty and openness.
It doesn’t require a news broadcast or press conference, at least not if you are already in a HABIT of open communication.
So many people are scared of the “friend zone,” when the “friend zone” is the best place to be throughout life. HERE’S WHY: There is no “friend zone” before commitment. If you think someone is in the friend zone, it ONLY MEANS the other person simply DOES NOT WANT them.
In a relationship, YOUR PARTNER IS YOUR ALLY. a team, a unit, of MUTUAL benefit. Just like you “child proof” a home, “love proof” your relationship.
KEEP IT SECURE.
So no matter what you two choose to do, no matter what you choose to NOT do, just make sure that your significant other is aware and MOST importantly: COMFORTABLE, so that BOTH OF YOU can grow and succeed courageously and happily.
THAT’S how love stays strong and passionate and happy.
Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.