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#3 MIGHT BE THE WORST
What is a B.D.R.?
A B.D.R is a bad report on a man’s performance in the bed. Usually women complain if he is not creative, or ends too fast, or doesn’t know how to move, etc.
However, there are certain others who deserve a B.D.R. and possibly to be placed on the “banned list.”
#1 The one who talks too much
It is no one else’s business who you had sex with.
These are the men who get validation by telling their stories, some real, but a lot of false ones. UNLESS you ask her and she says it’s cool to speak her name in the sexual conversation, just DON’T. By all means, share your glorious feats of sexual Olympic level performance, but you don’t need to bring her up.
Interestingly, most men say if the woman was a GF or a wife, they don’t share much about their sexual moments. I get that. You don’t want people seeing your partner in those visuals. BUT THAT’S ACTUALLY YOU PROTECTING YOU AND NOT ABOUT PROTECTING HER.
If you don’t want people seeing her that way if she’s your girl, then respect that she might not want her name in your stories when she is not your girl.
SIMPLE RULE: Don’t speak it, even if you’re not trying to keep it.
#2 The smelly one
This is simple. If you stink and expect favors: Boy Bye is the only 2 words you need to hear. Some of you forget that your butt is in the same neighborhood as your pleasure pieces, and fellas, it can get real stinky down there. BE THOROUGH.
Eat clean foods. Wash your ass. Put deodorant DOWN THERE too. Yes, your sweat is having a bacteria party all day, and you act like deodorant is only made for one area. Please spread the GOOD NEWS that deodorant works on all “closed quarters” of the body.
SIMPLE RULE: Keep it neat, before we meet up.
#3 The Rude Dude
Here’s possibly the worst one. THIS ONE IS A CURRENT SOCIAL MEDIA SUPPORTED PHENOMENON.
So basically , this man is willing to bring her in his bed for his sexual pleasure but won’t let her rest until the morning?
WHERE DID THIS COME FROM?
The way men and women are judged based on their sexual choices.
We still live in a world where a woman is considered a “hoe” or “less worthy” based on her sexual behaviors. In some instances, if a grown woman chooses to have sex with a man she is not committed to, some men think it’s a damage to her character. So if they see her as “less worthy” they can treat her any way they want. In fact, dismissing her from their space with no consideration is apparently acceptable for some.
OR at least that’s the way they POST it to be on social media.
Since when did it become cute to not give a F*** about other people in these situations? What are you afraid of? Afraid she’ll think she’s your “girl” now? Afraid that your morning routine will be altered by her presence?
Thankfully, I’ve never been put into a situation like this but I’m sure someone has, and there are some new adults who see this and assume that’s how it’s supposed to be done.
1 Only lay with someone with protection
2 Only lay with someone you trust enough to not kill you in your sleep
3 If you connect physically with someone, show some common decency and consideration for them as a living breathing HUMAN worthy of respect.
Live. Love. Connect. Respect.
Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.