It's not taking the job or starting a business, it's not being a parent, or getting married.
The most important thing you can do is:
Positive self-talk is just as dangerous as Negative self-talk because either one has the potential to be FALSE. It's in the LIES we tell ourselves that we endanger our futures and hurt ourselves and others.
Consider this situation:
You've been placed on one side of a forest. The instructions say that the goal is to reach the center of the forest to locate a great treasure. It might be gold or it might be enlightenment it might be the greatest sex you've ever had, it might be a positive change to society or your family, or some other positive result that you greatly desire.
What do you do next?
The typical response to any adventure or choice in life, if we are honest, is to just go forward, assuming that we can handle whatever comes at us, or whatever the terrain requires.
This is both unhealthy and unsafe.
The most important thing you can do is: honestly self-assess.
What experience do you have from the past? What actions have you taken before now? In what ways are you UNprepared? In what ways are you prepared? What do you know about the other people who are taking this journey with you? How can you and they come together on this?
and there are many more questions you need to answer. The point is to BE HONEST about your past. Tell yourself where you f***ed up. Tell yourself what you could have done better. It's okay to admit you did not do great at something, to admit "Hey I didn't do more but I could have."
It's also necessary to be honest about what good you have done. Because you want to grow in the areas you excelled, and you want to learn from your past f*** ups like procrastination, or inaction, or disregard for others.
Until you HONESTLY SELF-ASSESS you cannot make it through the jungle to reach that beautiful result at the center.
Check your resource bag. Check you body, mind and spirit for readiness. Any areas that need strengthening, work at that. Gather the resources you need, and then when ready TAKE THE LEAP and go forward.
Think back on a time you did not do this. It hurt didn't it when you fell off that cliff you were scaling or got bitten by that snake you didn't detect because of its camouflage.
Move forward with INTENT and HONEST SELF ASSESSMENT.
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