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A real "modern traditional lady" is likely to be high in demand in any city of the US. This is because obviously, supply is lower than demand. So what do you do if you're interested in a great lady, but she has either rejected you OR hasn't made a decision yet to commit?
Some of you are cool headed enough to not do this, but some of you are guilty of this, and if you do the following, you are very likely to PERMANENTLY lose your chance to date or even just be friends with this lady.
Here's one thing you DEFINITELY DO NOT want to do:
Do not insult or demean the other men that are (or you just think are) interested in her. Do not speak ill of men who are contacts of hers. Do not tell her "That other man just wants to fuck you." or "You know he's full of shit." or "He's just trying to control you." or any other negative statements about how another man views her or might treat her.
Because whether or not it's true is irrelevant. You've just told her that in your opinion, other men just want to misuse and mistreat her. You're effectively insulting the very qualities you claimed to admire in her, and a CONFIDENT woman who knows her value is going to IMMEDIATELY view you in a negative light.
#1 It's just ugly on a man. When men "gossip" or "talk trash" on another man whom they feel is interested in a lady, it looks worse to her than if a woman did it.
#2 She may know him better than you, even if you think otherwise, and your criticism will be obviously sparked by jealousy. It's one thing to feel jealousy' it's a WHOLE other thing to express it.
#3 No matter how great she is, she might just not be the lady for you, and that's okay. Accept it. Pursue other options, and if you wish, maintain contact with her as a friend and adviser on women.
#4 AND POSSIBLY THE BIGGEST REASON - others may hear or see your words or actions and you might be preventing your access to another woman.
God don't like ugly, and neither do great women. Be gracious, accept that she's not into you, and move forward accordingly and maintain your calm and focus.
Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.