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Let’s keep this short, Fellas.
If you need a workout and your boy says, “Hey man, meet me at the gym.”
You think to yourself, “Cool I’m gonna workout and my boy can keep me motivated and shit.” After all, you are going to the “gym,” right???
Then you get to the gym, and all he does is talk and play on his phone, and take pictures in the mirror and posts them to Instagram and Snapchat, and you look around like “WTF”
Yea you can work out alone but all this time he keeps distracting you with other shit, and you’re really not getting what you EXPECTED from it.
Then let’s say that your sister calls you to have dinner and she says she was gonna cook one of your favorite meals.
But when you arrive, she gets you to fix her sink, change some light bulbs and then she gives you cold bologna sandwiches, and says, “Nah, I was too tired to cook.”
See that right there is about the SAME PROBLEM: Not what you EXPECTED.
In the 1st situation, the environment and request to go to the gym gave you every indication that you’d “workout” but then didn’t. In the 2nd situation, you were told one thing and then after giving what you agreed to, your sister DID NOT give what she agreed to before you got there.
THIS right here is what frustrates TF out of women, especially 30 and over.
A woman in her 20s is still living in what I call the “romantic comedy” phase of dating.
She thinks things will always somehow “work out” even if the man is not really setting expectations loud and clear. She thinks, “Oh we’ll be all cute and fuck some times and he’ll fall in love and it’ll be great.”
So when that doesn’t happen, she develops into the 30 and over woman who says, “Look here bruh, tell me what this is NOW at the start so I can make my choice WITH KNOWLEDGE.
If all you wanna do is get some booty,
YOU are going to stay on my back burner and I’ll call you when I need to heat up once in a while. No I will not be available to you in the middle of the night. No I will not rub your back. No I will not hold space for you in my weekly schedule.
If you wanna get to know me and build something,
then love I will make space for you, I will treat you to the 3 star level treatment, and IF AND ONLY IF this goes to a mutually beneficially relationship will you get UPGRADED to that 5 star deluxe suite.
That’s all women really want from you.
Say what this is and DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT expect that deep level of attention if you aint even ready to invest in that upper level.
Got the KEY? Let me see.
Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.