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As funny as this video is at the bottom of this post, something hit me: WHY is this funny to our culture (and some others) when we know it would not be accepted by most people to suggest the opposite. In other words, how would people react to a video that showed a dead wife after she upset her husband?
We already know there would be outrage. Why the double standard?
The first thought that comes to me is, the difference in physical strength. In the minds of most people, the women is weaker and therefore it is less likely that she will actually physically kill the man. While the man's strength makes it more likely that he could kill her.
Yet, there are examples of women violently attacking their husbands and boyfriends.
Another explanation is the widespread teaching that men are supposed to protect women, therefore to most people , they cannot accept a visual of a woman being hurt by a man.
And that's fine that we don't accept portrayals of violence of women as acceptable or a joke. Yet, why do we not extend that same protection to men?
This I believe is an extension of a cultural neglect of men that has happened as a result of the pursuit of rights for women. we all know it's a beautiful thing that women receive the right to vote, equal access to education and employment, as well as equivalent wages to men. Yes, that is wonderful. But has it really ended there?
My daughter mentioned to me that there are hardly any books about boys who overcome challenges and are proud of who they are. She sees lots of books like this for girls, but couldn't find any for boys and this upset her. And this should upset us all.
I'm not saying it's been intentional, but with or without some group causing it, the neglect is real. It could just be a result of the volume of the demand for increased focus on women's rights and "girl power." Perhaps the volume for boys has remained the same, while the volume for the needs of girls has been dialed way up.
Let's think of other places where this neglect is real. Media publicizes "girl power" but shies away from empowering messages to boys. The husbands in most modern TV shows is portrayed as the idiot, while the wife is the one with the intelligence.
In his Ted Talk, Colin Stokes, discussed how man hood is portrayed in film. What he notices and warns about is the image of manhood in film. It is usually one dimensional. The superhero conquers an evil and gets the girl. He doesn't get to build anything. He doesn't get to work with his love interest on anything.
I'll keep this short by asking this: What kind of images are shown in popular media of boys and men?
We talk often about the images of women and how girls are affected, so why do we not PROTECT our boys just the same?
On another note: Fellas, the video below is still good for one thing. It does let you know a few things you probably don't want to say to your wife or girlfriend, and for that end, the video is enjoyable.
POSITIVE EXAMPLES IN RECENT YEARS:
!. Up 2. Inside Out 3. Despicable Me 4. The Incredibles
I suggest these as great options for the kids, and for us too, because we all know we never outgrew great cartoons.
Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.