In the battle to define
what is the
Oh you all in your feelings! Betta get out your feelings.
Why do these popular sayings get thrown around so much? Those who promote these statements are suggesting that emotions and giving a damn about others and about the actions of others is a weakness.
It's not just a man thing. All people are afraid to express love and concern in our present culture. And I say "present" for a reason. Because the FUTURE culture is what we decide it will be.
So what's up with this fear of expressing love?
I read a blog post from a man who said after the shooting of a black man by police, he wanted to send a message of love to his closest friends but stopped for fear of being perceived as "soft" by his male friends.
The writer suggested it was a "man thing" because of how men are raised to be hard and unaffected by
But I'm here to say it's much more than that.
Yes men are taught what he said, but this is a cultural lesson that is widespread. As a woman I have felt hesitant and uncertain about telling my male and my female friends that I love them. I admit to this undercurrent of fear that maybe it'll be misunderstood or maybe I'm too scared to open up and ... be VULNERABLE. or maybe it's not that I'd be vulnerable but that I'd appear vulnerable.
But look at that... even with those we most love, we hesitate to say "I love you" because even in our safest spaces, we are afraid of that VULNERABILITY.
I don't put it on individuals as much as I put it on mass media. Yes, we choose what we watch and what we buy, BUT there was a time when mass media was subject to cultural standards that the people as a whole wanted projected.
Since the 1990s eruption of strippers pretending to be college girls on MTV and the following insanity of so-called "reality TV" the scum is paraded on TV screens regularly instead of images that reflect our common REALITY.
We live and interact regularly at work, at home, at schools, and most recently many of us are uniting on the streets in protest against prolific violence among civilians AND at the hands of police paid to protect.
The MATERIALISM and GREED projected on reality TV and certain other media messages is NOT reflective of what we live and what we NEED most in this time, which is LOVE and SUPPORT. With that said,
GET IN TO YOUR FEELINGS. Express love and compassion. As an activist on the front lines of protests and education, I have felt the weight of sadness and pain in myself and seen it in my brothers and sisters around me.
One of my closest friends chose to make and carry a sign at a protest that read "I AM HERE TO GIVE HUGS" Because she recognized that the activists, the community, the victims, all need CONNECTION and HUMAN EMOTION.
I say it again, GET IN YOUR FEELINGS. Becasue we NEED LOVE and SUPPORT. A hug, a pat on the back, a SINCERE asking "How do you feel right now?" and an open ear to hear from another spirit. THAT is what we need to support AND MAINTAIN OUR STRENGTH and our momentum as we strive to achieve in our personal lives AND for our communities.
I love you. You hear me? You "read" me?
I LOVE YOU.
Author: Jessica Bordelon
Passionate, powerful, & gentle, she is an artist that captures the strength , power & energy of femininity in its purest form.